Stay home or go on vacation?

ok my husband was just deployed to kuwait, in the past year he really hasn't been home much at all with the week and month long training. he is on a 12 month tour. he was just home for a week for christmas and he is trying to get his R&R for Aug. 09 to be home for our birthdays and our anniversary. we have been together for 9 yrs we have three kids under the age of five. we are still very young ourselves and we have never really done anything together like a vacation or anything like that. i was wanting to plan a trip while he was home for his R&R but feel very guilty that the kids wouldn't get to spend as much time with him and or vice versa. so i was wondering if it would be best to just stay home and do things with the kids like the zoo or holiday world. Then just take a trip when he is home in november for the two of us. so i guess what im asking is do you think him and the kids should spend as much time together as possible or would it be ok for use to spend a weekend alone together?