I think I'm in love with two people. If I'm patient will one love fade away?

I have been with my husband nine years now. He has strong character, he's loyal and a good provider but he is emotionally unavailable, refuses to talk about feelings or pretty much anything for that matter, is rigid in the bedroom and ignores problems, both my own and ours. One of my best guy friends who is wild, crazy, fun, intelligent, social (and a major commitment phobe) stayed up with me until the dawn while I cried on his shoulder recently. I expressed my dissatisfaction with my life and husband and he kissed me! I had no idea he even liked me that way, but he confessed he has for a long time, he just never consider me an option. Since then, our relationship has changed to very flirtatious, luckily he lives far away so I can be disiplined, do the right thing, and back away from the friendship. I don't want to lose him as a friend though, and the more I pull away, the more I think about him. Could I be in love with two people? I told my husband I was afraid I would cheat on him if we didn't work on the relationship and since then he has been much more attentive and talkative, but it's such an unnatural stretch for him. Am I holding on to a old, dead marriage? Or am I just infatuated with a friend that I probably wouldn't work out with anyway? I'm so confused! It's been two months and despite my best efforts to work on my marriage and back away from my friend, nothing has changed, my feelings for my friend are stronger than for my husband. Will the feelings for my friend eventually go away if I ignore them long enough?